How to Keep House While Drowning By KC Davis

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How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing By KC Davis

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Book/Novel Author: KC Davis

Book/Novel Title: How to Keep House While Drowning

 

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USA TODAY Bestseller This revolutionary approach to cleaning and organizing helps free you from feeling ashamed or overwhelmed by a messy home.If you’re struggling to stay on top of your to-do list, you probably have a good reason: anxiety, fatigue, depression, ADHD, or lack of support. For therapist KC Davis, the birth of her second child triggered a stress-mess cycle. The more behind she felt, the less motivated she was to start. She didn’t fold a single piece of laundry for seven months. One life-changing realization restored her sanity—and the functionality of her home: You don’t work for your home; your home works for you. In other words, messiness is not a moral failing. A new sense of calm washed over her as she let go of the shame-based messaging that interpreted a pile of dirty laundry as “I can never keep up” and a chaotic kitchen as “I’m a bad mother.” Instead, she looked at unwashed clothes and thought, “I am alive,” and at stacks of dishes and thought, “I cooked my family dinner three nights in a row.” Building on this foundation of self-compassion, KC devised the powerful practical approach that has exploded in popularity through her TikTok account, @domesticblisters. The secret is to simplify your to-do list and to find creative workarounds that accommodate your limited time and energy. In this book, you’ll learn exactly how to customize your cleaning strategy and rebuild your relationship with your home, including: -How to see chores as kindnesses to your future self, not as a reflection of your worth -How to start by setting priorities -How to stagger tasks so you won’t procrastinate -How to clean in quick bursts within your existing daily routine -How to use creative shortcuts to transform a room from messy to functional With KC’s help, your home will feel like a sanctuary again. It will become a place to rest, even when things aren’t finished. You will move with ease, and peace and calm will edge out guilt, self-criticism, and endless checklists. They have no place here.
Great, easy read that challenges our perceptions of chores and to do lists! I benefitted from the wisdom shared in this book and the opportunity to be gracious to myself.
I really enjoyed 95% of this book. It reaffirmed some of the methods I’ve organically fallen into in my home (no presorting laundry, and no folding things that don’t need to be folded). And it gave me new ways to think about and approach other things.However, there’s a small sprinkling of adult language, including a random F-bomb that doesn’t add anything but a cringy moment to the book. It’s odd that an author who is so sensitive to possible various traumas and abuse histories of the readers would include angry, abuse-related language out of the blue. For that reason, I won’t be recommending it to anyone I know personally.
I loved KCs practical advice sprinkled with reality checks about self-shaming, and some ideas for how to stop berating yourself and others for not meeting a perfectionist standard of housework. I loved the way she talks about rest as a right and how creating fairness about “equal resting” between two parents is a way to transform the conversation about who does more.
I listened to the audiobook, as my ADHD makes reading pretty difficult.It’s set up for people with varying capacities to commit to the book, but even with the un-“abridged version” (in the book she will tell you which chapters to skip), the book is only 3 hours long. I found myself afraid it would end soon because I loved it so much. She talks about things that are the most embarrassing symptoms of many chronic diseases/disabilities– struggling with hygiene, cleaning your home, etc.She offers a lot of solutions, but what I love is that the book is not a “life hack” book, it is really more coaching through a perspective shift. Despite the messages we receive from adults growing up and society at large as adults, dishes, showers, and the cleanliness of your home are not moral battlegrounds. In other words, you are not a bad person for struggling with these things. The weight we put on ourselves in believing that our failures at “keeping house” are failures of character is part of the reason it is so hard.The author also is so inclusive in their language and content. It really stood out to me. She also consults black experts for their insight in the care and keeping of black hair and bodies when struggling, which I REALLY appreciated.I cried about 7 times throughout listening and I’m really not a crier, but I felt validated for the first time in my struggle with these things. I spend a lot of time disgusted with myself because of these struggles, but even knowing that others have the same struggles is so helpful for me.Read or listen to this book. It is the best choice of how to spend 3 hours of your life I’ve ever made.
I’m not sure what I expected when I purchased this book. It’s not the usual tired cleaning and organizing lists. Davis goes way beyond that. It’s compassionate and humorous. She addresses the reality of being human, and how sometimes being human is difficult. I recommend it.
Doggone it, I was enjoying this book so much that when I hit the last page I was shocked and disappointed. There was something so soothing and caring about reading KC’s kind words I didn’t want it to end. Oh well, I will just have to use her helpful ideas and motivate myself to perform a care task or two…. Maybe after I go enjoy some sunshine outdoors for a bit. This was a helpful as well as enjoyable read.

 

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