In Love By Amy Bloom
Book/Novel Author: Amy Bloom
Book/Novel Title: In Love
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A powerful memoir of a love that leads two people to find a courageous way to part—and a woman’s struggle to go forward in the face of loss—that “enriches the reader’s life with urgency and gratitude” (The Washington Post)“A pleasure to read . . . Rarely has a memoir about death been so full of life. . . . Bloom has a talent for mixing the prosaic and profound, the slapstick and the serious.”—USA Today ONE OF THE MOST ANTICIPATED BOOKS OF 2022—Oprah Daily, BookPageAmy Bloom began to notice changes in her husband, Brian: He retired early from a new job he loved; he withdrew from close friendships; he talked mostly about the past. Suddenly, it seemed there was a glass wall between them, and their long walks and talks stopped. Their world was altered forever when an MRI confirmed what they could no longer ignore: Brian had Alzheimer’s disease.Forced to confront the truth of the diagnosis and its impact on the future he had envisioned, Brian was determined to die on his feet, not live on his knees. Supporting each other in their last journey together, Brian and Amy made the unimaginably difficult and painful decision to go to Dignitas, an organization based in Switzerland that empowers a person to end their own life with dignity and peace.In this heartbreaking and surprising memoir, Bloom sheds light on a part of life we so often shy away from discussing—its ending. Written in Bloom’s captivating, insightful voice and with her trademark wit and candor, In Love is an unforgettable portrait of a beautiful marriage, and a boundary-defying love.
Even though I needed to get black out curtains for my guest room before my grandson arrives….All I can think about are: would I have this courage? how blessed were they that his Catholic matriarch was on board?
This is a quick/short book that details both Brian’s “assisted suicide” and the relationship of Amy and Brian. Brian’s choice to kill himself that stage of stage of Alzheimer’s is thought provoking. What was missing was the aftermath. Amy flew home, held a memorial service, had some auto accidents, and? That’s about all the detail of life after Brian’s death and I would have liked for there to be more.
Tragically stricken by dementia during the course of their happy marriage, the author’s husband, with her agreement and guidance, chooses to die via “accompanied suicide” at at clinic in Switzerland in January of 2020. Barely two years later, this account of his decline and demise is published, possibly a bit prematurely. A story like this should be gripping, but this memoir seems shallow, repetitious, and poorly ordered. Perhaps had the author rested with her thoughts and feelings a bit longer she might have written a deeper and more insightful book.
This book moved me and I thank the author for her honesty in sharing the hell of losing a loved one to dementia. I found her witty, concise and raw. I highly recommend this book.
In Love by Amy Bloom hits all the right notes when it comes to revealing and evoking authentic and true emotions. The author beautifully articulates her story of love, passionate and imperfect, and her personal emotional challenges and struggles. She shares what she has experienced and learned during her quest for answers while on life’s journey before and during her husband’s early onset Alzheimer’s symptoms, diagnosis, progression and his life changing decision.Odd behaviors, strange occurrences and inconsistent decision making over several years finally lead to a doctor’s visit that uncovered the truth. The shocking, but not so shocking diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer’s was confirmed when Brian went for bloodwork and an MRI… and everything changed for Amy and Brian from that day forward. Brian was adamant about his choice to not live with a debilitating and progressive disease and asked Amy to research his options.Battling her emotions but knowing she was going to abide by his wishes, Amy Bloom gives us an account of the options she pursued on behalf of her husband, the mental exams Brian was taxed with in order to reach a diagnosis, her emotional rollercoaster and his steadfastness when it came to how his life would conclude, even during the times where he was physically lost, emotionally detached and irrationally short tempered. His unsettling symptoms were exhibited yet his love and appreciation for Amy and his decision to end his life by his own free will never wavered.I love Amy’s writing and I cried for all that was lost. Brian made an almost impossible and difficult decision and Amy honored it by loving and supporting him… I see that as a beautiful gift they gave each other. I highly recommend this memoir.